Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
I was having a deep conversation with one of my fellow blog friends last night. We were talking about how both us have been dealing with the haters, and how we are handling this. She was telling me about how one of her haters rude comments on one her recent makeup videos upset her. The commenter said her makeup looks were "too extreme" and how she hated everything about them. A week later the hater admitted they was wrong, cried and then apologized for their rude remarks. She told the hater off, then blocked them. I'm also in the beauty community and being that I'm a makeup artist too, I can relate to this.
I have similar experiences. One time, a group of haters messaged me on social media and told me to stop. When I asked them why, they said there was no reason and told me to quit. So sad! I seen what they were trying to do the whole time. They messaged me again three months later begging for me to help them, apologizing for being so hurtful. Then, I had a toxic ex friend that was lying and trying to steal my blog, photos, nails, and makeup. She basically tried to be me, but got caught. That was bad a idea, my content is copywritten and copywrite laws are no laughing matter. Another time, a different hater messaged me about my makeup photos and told me my natural lips were too big. Then admitted they were wrong for coming at me like that. They all apologized but it was too late! These haters are envious and even admitted they wanted to be in my shoes. Yikes! True stories..
Why is it that these people throw insults? Why do they send hurtful messages and comments to content creators, cause chaos then apologize afterwards? Why can't they realize their issues before hand? Why can't they stop themselves from attacking people that are only trying to help them? Why? Well simply because "haters" are unhealed people. This is why it's important to heal. When a person doesn't do their inner work on themselves and do what's needed to heal themselves from within, that is who they become, a hater. A unhealed toxic individual spewing envy, hatred, and toxicity at everyone they in counter. That is why I tell my haters to heal. Heal.. please heal.
I'm not going stop, walk away, or delete anything. let's just make that clear! This is what I love to do and will continue to keep going. Nor will I tolerate the disrespect.. Respect is a two way street, not one. I've had a quite few people disrespect me, then got extremely mad when I stood up for myself. The audacity! I will not sit back, be disrespected for no reason then not say anything about it. No way, that's crazy lol! In this business, you will always have someone trying to hurt you or insult you because of their own insecurities. Can't let that stop you though, you have to keep going especially if it's something you love. I'm continuing to move forward.
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Hello! First, I will start off by saying Happy New Year. Hopefully everyone is having a good year so far. This will be my first blog post for 2024, I'm back. 2023 was a wild year to say the least. Last year definitely had it's ups and downs, but the good blessings outweighed the bad. Thankfully through the grace of God we made it through to another year. Where have I been? Well, I took a step back again to focus on my personal life, family, and other things.
Recently, one of my dear friends from middle school reached out to me by email. She was going through a tough time and was contemplating suicide. I was there for her, cried with her, guided her, and stopped her from hurting herself. That was an emotional, eye opening experience. She's doing better now and I'm happy. This is why I teach! This is not about competition, it's about helping the ones that really need positive, truthful guidance, love, and compassion. This is about making a difference and changing lives.
People often ask me, how do I have so much knowledge at such a young age? How am I'm able to be a light in people's lives during their darkest times and give guidance? Mostly through my own personal life experiences... I understand.
I know pain. I know how it feels to feel left out, hopeless, and alone. I understand how it feels to be bullied, to feel like you are not enough. I know! Growing up... I had a difficult childhood. I was bullied and teased for basically everything, my height (I'm 4'10) and weight. I had to stop thinking so negatively about myself, build my confidence and learn to love myself. During that process, I realized that nothing was wrong with me. I'm beautiful and that I am enough. There's nothing wrong with being confident and feeling good about yourself.
Last year, I took a step back mainly to make some serious changes in my life. I had to cut off toxic so called "friends" and family members. This was an emotional process that needed to be done in order to move forward. Then, I had a brief creative blockage that needed to be worked on. Thinking of different nail art designs to do next, more of that will be coming soon. My nails get a lot of compliments mostly because of their uniqueness. My designs are beautiful, unique, and detailed. Thank you for the compliments. I truly put my heart in everything that I do, and appreciate the love.
More coming soon!
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Hello everyone, I'm back again. People have been asking me where have I been, why haven't I been posting much lately. Well, I took a break from posting to focus on myself and other things going on in my life. No, I didn't "Quit". Hahaha! I mean, life happens. Just because I take a break once in a while from posting doesn't mean I'm quitting. I love what I do, Why would I stop?
Another question I received, Are my page views real? Yes! my page views are 100% real authentic views from my readers, followers, and visitors. Regarding the haters, I simply ignore them. There's some people that doubt me and my abilities, think I'm "lying" about who I'm truly am, and people that hate me because of who I am. This is the real, authentic me and this is what I do. I'm gifted! I try not to talk about the "haters" much because they're negative, and I'm not here for the drama. I'm not going to go too in depth on this post because this is a short update. Wrapping up this post, answering recent questions I've been getting.
More coming soon.
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Well 2021 is finally coming to a close. This year has been good.
There were a few obstacles that came my way, but I overcame them.
Important Lessons I've learned from 2021:
• Self Care Is Important
It's true! Self care is very important. Taking some time out everyday for yourself isn't selfish, it's necessary. Reading a book, meditating, watching your favorite TV show or movie, getting a manicure, or even shopping are some great examples. Take time out for yourself each day to nourish your mind, body, and soul.
• Haters Never Prosper
Let's get straight to the point, haters are toxic. Usually when a hater tries to tear you down, it's a reflection of their own self. These types of people are unhappy with themselves and want to inflict their pain onto other people. Nothing good comes from being a hater, it's just a toxic never ending cycle leading down the path of destruction. I notice little things people try to say and do to get under my skin. I try my best not to respond to the hate, it's a waste of time and energy. The best thing you can do is pray for these types of people, they need God in their lives.
• Everyone Doesn't Have Good Intentions
Everyone doesn't have your best interest at heart, some people pretend well. One of the hardest lessons I had to learn this year. Some people will smile in your face, and then talk bad about you behind your back.
Getting backstabbed is never a good feeling. I let God deal with situations like this. After all, he sees everything.
• Believe In Yourself
You have to believe in yourself no matter what, no matter how hard life gets. If you don't believe in yourself, then who will? It all begins with self love. This year I've had a lot of naysayers, but that didn't stop me. It never will! This is who I am. This is my calling and I love what I do.
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This crazy year is finally coming to an end. Let's just say 2020 has been very enlightening, to say the least. I have definitely learned a lot this year.
Here are 3 lessons I've learned from 2020:
1. Everything In Life Happens For A Reason
Everything happens for a reason. Some experiences we go through in life are meant to teach us and help us grow. God has a reason for everything! Sometimes, we don't understand why certain situations occur, but in the end it all makes sense.
2. A persons true colors will always show within time
This year showed me who people truly are. What I've learned is that during the worst times of your life, you get to see who really cares about you. Sadly, I had to cut a lot people off due to their evil, narcissistic ways. Like Maya Angelou says, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." now that I know better, I can do better.
3. Prayer is The Best Medicine
I cannot tell you how many times I wanted to give up. Way too many to count. No matter what I went through, I never gave up. Whenever you feel like throwing in the towel, pray. I cannot stress this enough! Prayer is always the answer to everything. If something is not meant to be, then let it go. God will replace it with something better.
In today's world, people are always trying to outdo each other. Why does everything in life have to be a competition? What is the REAL problem?
I've noticed the whole "competition trend" in real life and on social media. Honestly, It's really pathetic how people are behaving. Women are competing with each other over the craziest things. Families are being torn apart, and friendships are being ruined everyday due to silly, competitive games. Whatever happened to sticking together and being there for one another? Whatever happened to girl power? With everything that's going on in the world right now, this is the last thing we should be thinking about. This really needs to stop.
Sadly, I have experienced this too. Ever since I was a child, girls would always try to compete with me, but I never understood why. I stayed to myself. I never thought I was better than anyone else. I was, and still is very humble. Even to this day, I still have people competing with me. My question is why? What is the point of trying to compete with others, when you can take some of that time to better yourself?
Me personally, I have never felt the need to compete. Why? Because I'm confident. I know I'm good at what I do. When you have confidence and feel secure within yourself, you will not feel the need to battle with others. You'll be so busy working on yourself, you won't even have time to worry about what someone else is doing. At the end of the day, the only person you should be competing with is yourself.
During this time, what we should be focusing on is getting along with one another. We should start being there for each other more often. We got to do better than this.
It's ridiculous how people will try to get even with someone, especially over something that's so trivial. What people fail to realize is, revenge doesn't work. Some People will spend their whole life trying to get even with others. When you try to hurt someone out of spite, you only end up hurting yourself in the end. It's time to get over it and let it go.
See the problem with revenge is, it's a never ending cycle. Once someone starts, they will not want to stop. Nothing is resolved through revenge. It's counterproductive and pointless. Inflicting harm or pain on someone will not make you feel any better. People often forget that karma is very real.. What goes around will always come back around in the end. Seeking vengeance is a complete waste of time and energy. Over the years, I've learned to let God deal with my problems. The best revenge is no revenge at all.
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